What categorizes an individual as successful? What is it that places us into these small groups labeled...
[Loser, Prep, Princess, Ignorant, Rude, Boring, Ugly, Failure, Trashy, Hippie, Classy, Sassy, Cocky, Cheap, Annoying, Insecure, etc. etc]
Is it our passed decisions? Our upbringing? Our current lifestyle choices? Our prior relationships? Our parents or their decisions? Our talents? Our success's? Our ambitions?
In all honesty I feel that there is no true determining factor as to what places us in to these small classifications, it's all observations and opinions of those around us.
But what if we could all learn this one thing...
This one very simple thing...
This one possibly life changing thing.....
And that is...
Not a single INDIVIDUAL THINKS the same way as YOU DO.
There are millions of determining factors that make a person have the beliefs they carry and that's not a bad thing. But why is it that we can't all realize THAT one thing.... before we go about judging?
Why is it that we can't all become CURIOUS not judgmental.....
Is it some sort of underlying self esteem issue?
Is it because of what we've been told is the "right" way to live your lives? ...
....Truthfully I'm not sure, but it's something that I have been toying with a lot lately.
I completely understand a persons decision to surround themselves with people that have a similar life style as them, but I cannot wrap my head around people who look at others with pure judgment and complete close mindedness.
I myself used to be guilty of this, back in high-school when I thought that Boise, Idaho was the center of the universe
.... and who I was then, was who I was going to be for the rest of my life.
But then I realized...
We hold the key to be whoever we want to be.
Understanding other people's struggles instead of condemning them, acknowledging other people's beliefs and opinions instead surveying them....
just imagine all that we could achieve with just that one way of thinking...
The inspiration for this entry is something going on in my personal life....
I have these 2 friends, both of which I consider genuine people in my life.
Neither of which are friends with each other ...
One of them is what you'd call, if you choose to label her, a 'Hippie.' A person of the Earth, a girl who refuses to eat anything associated with an animal and who aspires to see all she can see in this lifetime. She's had a rough up-bringing but has only used it to become something stronger. A girl who wears minimal make up, and doesn't spend a lot time or money on her appearance, but is truly beautiful.
Then there is my other friend. The tall blonde 'princess,' a girl who has had an amazing family that has given her every opportunity she'd could dream of. She genuinely cares about her appearance & works hard to keep it up. A girl who has every social skill you'd could want and dozens of friends that love her. A girl who is considered "the girl next door" completely UN-attainable to a lot of men. She is absolutely caring to anyone that needs her & is also truly beautiful.
I love both of these girls, just like sisters.
These two girls have absolutely NOTHING in common, except just ONE thing....
Their close minded natures.
You see, the couple of times I have brought these two around each other, they hated each other. The reason being, each is very set on their ways. Don't get me wrong, that's not a bad thing, but it's important for us to remember that there is no RIGHT way...
We're all just doing what we can to make what we want out of our lives. Each of us have our own reasons for feeling certain ways, we have our own reasons for being "vegans" or "meat eaters"... for being a person that chooses to smoke weed... or a person that will never go near it with a fear of what could happen.
Both girls think of each-other as "Ignorant"... their word, not mine.
I feel like our society scares us into these people were supposed to be, and anyone that steps outside of that is to be isolated into a particular "category."
Imagine what we could become if we just learned to open up our eyes?
Imagine what we could become if we all just realized how short-lived our time truly is.... Imagine what we could learn from each-other by taking away this fear...
We're all just the same you know...
Built with good intentions... with hope for a better future.... built with intrigue... and the ability to achieve true success....
You don't believe me??...
This passed Friday night I played a little game with some friends...
I noticed a lot of people in the room, staring, looking around with a strange silence about them....
So I wanted a challenge... I asked the boys to look around this very crowded room and find the most miserable, unhappy, angry looking people.... and point them out to me.. then I told them to watch what I could do...
The first person they pointed out was a mid-20's blonde girl standing with her friends, drinking, with a mean look stemming from her eyes. You could just read her energy, she was not an approachable person.
Challenge Accepted.
I approached her immediately, acknowledging all of the people she was standing with, with a simple gracious smile. I looked at her and told her that she looked absolutely fabulous in blue, blonde's have certain colors that stand out beautifully on them and she had chosen the right one. Instantly her wall came down, she smiled and thanked me going on about how she had searched for something to wear for hours that night.
As I stood with this group and continued talking with them, I realized something. This "angry looking" girl's best friend was the center of attention, all of the boys were extremely magnetic to this friend and it seemed as though she was barely able to get a word in edge wise, which probably had a lot to do with her body language...
It's funny huh?... What you wouldn't realize about someone until you gave them a chance...
Most of us are easily brought down by flattery or simple small talk....
So I challenge you....
Watch what you can achieve.
-L
"Be students
Be teachers
Be politicians
Be preachers
Be believers
Be leaders
Be astronauts
Be champions
Be truth seekers
Be students
Be teachers
Be politicians
Be preachers
Be believers
Be leaders
Be astronauts
Be champions" -The Script "Hall Of Fame"
